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Parental Alienation: What It Is and How to Prove It in Court

December 10, 2024

Divorce and custody disputes can be emotionally taxing, especially when children are involved. In some cases, one parent may actively work to turn the child against the other parent—a harmful behavior known as parental alienation. Courts take this issue seriously, as it can significantly damage the child-parent relationship and affect the child’s well-being. Understanding what parental alienation is and how to prove it in court can be critical in protecting your relationship with your child.

What is Parental Alienation?

Parental alienation occurs when one parent deliberately manipulates a child to create distance or hostility toward the other parent. This can involve subtle behaviors like badmouthing the other parent or more overt actions like blocking contact or fabricating accusations.



The goal of parental alienation is often to undermine the child's trust and affection for the targeted parent, which can have lasting emotional and psychological effects. Courts view this behavior as harmful not only to the targeted parent but also to the child, as it disrupts the child’s right to maintain a healthy relationship with both parents.

Signs of Parental Alienation

If you suspect parental alienation, watch for these common signs:

Sudden Changes in Behavior: A previously affectionate child may become distant, angry, or unresponsive without a clear reason.

Unreasonable Fear or Rejection: The child may unjustifiably refuse to visit or communicate with you, often echoing the alienating parent’s language.

Excessive Alignment with the Other Parent: The child may seem overly protective or loyal to the alienating parent, taking their side on all matters.

Unfounded Accusations: The child may claim you have wronged them, but their reasons lack evidence or are clearly influenced by the other parent.

Interference with Parenting Time: The alienating parent may block phone calls, cancel visits, or otherwise disrupt your ability to spend time with your child.

Proving Parental Alienation in Court

To address parental alienation in court, you will need to provide clear and convincing evidence. Here are key steps to prove your case:

Document Behavior and Incidents. Keep a detailed record of events, such as missed visitation, hostile comments from the child, or actions taken by the other parent to block communication. Note dates, times, and specific details to create a clear timeline.

Obtain Testimonies from Witnesses. Family members, teachers, therapists, or others who have observed the child’s behavior or the alienating parent’s actions can provide valuable testimony.

Present Communications as Evidence. Text messages, emails, or voicemails that show the alienating parent disparaging you or interfering with parenting time can help demonstrate their efforts to undermine your relationship with your child.

Seek Professional Evaluations. Courts often rely on mental health professionals to assess the child’s relationship with both parents. A psychologist or custody evaluator can identify signs of alienation and provide a professional opinion on the impact on the child.

File a Motion for Custody Evaluation. If you suspect parental alienation, your attorney can request a custody evaluation to investigate the family dynamics. This formal assessment can provide critical evidence for your case.

What the Courts Can Do

Once parental alienation is proven, courts can take steps to protect the child and restore the parent-child relationship. These measures may include:

Modifying Custody Arrangements: If the alienating parent’s behavior is harmful, the court may adjust custody to limit their influence on the child.

Mandating Counseling: Family or reunification therapy may be ordered to repair the relationship between the child and the targeted parent.

Enforcing Visitation Rights: The court can impose penalties on the alienating parent for interfering with visitation or communication.

Protect Your Rights With Koontz Law, PLLC

At Koontz Law, PLLC, we understand how devastating parental alienation can be. Our experienced family law attorneys are here to advocate for you and protect your relationship with your child. We will work tirelessly to gather evidence, present a compelling case, and pursue legal remedies to stop alienation in its tracks.


If you believe you are a victim of parental alienation, don’t wait to take action. Contact Koontz Law, PLLC today to request a consultation. Together, we’ll fight to ensure your child has the loving and supportive relationship they deserve with both parents.

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